Should I Take A Break From This Relationship?
Ive been dating my boyfriend for two years (I’m 18)
Lately I’ve been thinking about taking a break from him.
I love him with all my heart and havent stopped, but I feel weird.
I feel like my life is too planned out right now with him,
And I feel like the magic is gone in our relationship but he is fine.
I’ve never been single in high school either so I feel like I’m missing part of my life experiences.
Do you think taking a break would be good for me?
Any other helpful advice would be awesome. Thank you so much. 
It sounds like you already know the answer. Why be in a relationship if you are not completely happy? You’re too young to be feeling trapped. Go out and figure out who you are apart from your boyfriend.
The best thing is to talk it over with him. Is he older than you with more life experiences? If so, make him understand that you want to be able to have those experiences as well. Explain that it’s nothing to do with how you feel about him, and just that you feel the need to experience life on your own before you settle in too far.
If you’re looking to take a break so you can experience more casual dating with other guys, then you may have more trouble with him understanding your point of view. However, you need to tell him that this is something you need to do for yourself.
On the other hand, if you think you have it good and that you can experience the things you want to experience while still being in a relationship (example: taking a long trip to a foreign country by yourself and doing long distance for a while), then you should continue the relationship and just tell him you need some space to do things more independently.
I think if you have the feelings you are feeling about your life being planned and that you are missing part of your high school experience then it may be a good idea to take a break.
You are still young to have your whole life planned out…college is a great time to see what the future has for you!
If you don’t take the break, just remember to still talk to your girl friends because they will be the ones that are there for you if something if your relationship does change. As much as I don’t like this saying you still have to put “hoes before bros”.
Good luck
you obviously dont love him with all your heart if your thinking about leaving him.
but lets get real…your young, you have your whole life ahead of you & you cant just spend all 4 years in high school locked down by some guy that your not even sure you want to be with right now (: and remember – if you take a break & you feel as if you want too come back; and he denys you…then it was never meant too be hunn!
Yes you need to take a break just to find who you really are. When you go off to college things will change a lot for you. Your young go and experience life. Do different things see different people find out what you really want out off life. You should have had maybe 4 or 5 bf’s by now just go and have fun.
No i do not think that u should take a break. If you trully love him whats the point and breaking up with him.If u think ur missing out u should have thought of that b4. What if you break his heart and he never wants to be wth you again….then what??? u lost someone that couls never be repalced…so i dont think you should
If you think it’s what’s best for you right now then maybe you should. But just be careful because if you decide to do this and then one day feel like you want him back, he may have moved on. You know what you should do is make a list of Pro’s and Con’s and weigh your options out that way. Best of luck!
If you feel as though you are overwhelmed in the relationship, then take a break. However, don’t simply break up w/ the guy to just get over-involved with someone else. You are really young, go experience life!
If you take a break you might lose him..but if you don’t really feel anything for him as much now and you want to get out and do you own thing for once..i think it would be fine..or later on you might regret..and just explain that to your bf.
If you’re even questioning then absolutely. You will meet someone you don’t wonder about, whether its who you’re with after the break or a new guy. You never want to wonder what if.
“taking a break” to a guy is like the end of their life. if you really love him, find something that will put the spark back in your relationship. maybe hes feeling the same way
No. Be careful because if you let him go, you may never get him back again.
you obviously dont love him with all your heart
First, I wasn to come back an ‘edit’ and add here that I’m a guy, and I’m kinda surprised at how many females wrote to you: If you take a break, when you want to ‘come back’ – he might be gone… don’t take the break.
What? Wow. I’m honestly surprised at that.
Okay, I didn’t mean to insult anyone, honest. Anyway… I think, or my heart tells me, if you feel you need the break – and you need to even ask it, then, yes, you do. I answered another question related to this a short while back, and I’ll say what I said then:
More importantly: I feel any good long-lasting relationship is best if grounded or found on being friends (or even best-friends) first. Without that foundation, it simply won’t last (or at the very least, it will be a pretty unhappy relationship.) What would a good friend of yours do if you posed this question to them? A good friend would understand and say “No problem.” Right? Or would a good friend say: “If you don’t talk to me every day, or every week, I’ll dump you, and never speak to you again!”
If your boyfriend is a good friend, he will understand, and he will not get all freaked out or upset about it. Best friends are okay with having a break once in a while, right? The best friends in my life, I have gone a month or several months not speaking with, and when the time was right, we picked right back up where we left off, and nothing changed.
You seem to be pretty level headed and know what is best for you. You do what YOU think is best. But, based on what you wrote, and it being a question – my answer is, yeah, go ahead and take that break.
If someone you ‘love’ (or the other way around) isn’t able, willing, or okay with you taking a break, I’m not sure they were a friend to start with. If you need or want the break for a while – I don’t think you should feel bad about it, guilty, etc. Actually, you sound like you have a good heart and healthy way of looking at it all.